Looking for the opposite of “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days”?
The age old saying of “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” couldn’t be truer than when it comes to expressing your feelings during the first few dates. Here are some tips of things to avoid if you don’t want to send your man running for the hills after date number 2.
Saying “I love you” is huge! And saying it after you’ve been dating for 2 weeks will really freak him out. Chances are he is still working through the “I like you” stage.
Don’t go crazy taking photos of the two of you together and then posting them on Facebook for your 539 friends to see, not when you’ve only been together for a few weeks. And stay away from changing your “relationship status” until yo
u’ve chatted to him about where your relationship is at.
Bring out your feminine side when on your first dates. You may be a rugby playing, beer drinking lass but save burping the alphabet and cracking open bottles with your teeth until you’ve been together a while. Most guys like to see a feminine lady whom they can be a helpful gentleman for.
Don’t bring up your ex, even if he was a heart surgeon built like Colin Farrell with a holiday house in the Caribbean! It makes guys feel they don’t make the grade, and it makes you look like you’re not ready to move on. Likewise don’t trash-talk your ex either or your new guy will start picturing himself in that position.
Have your own opinions. There’s no need to agree with everything he says just because it’ll look like you have a lot in common.
Planning all-weekend dates when you’ve only known each other for 2 weeks will probably make him feel like you’re ruling his life and taking away his freedom.
When you’re not together, don’t question where he is/what he’s doing/who he’s with etc. This comes across as super clingy and possessive.
Don’t trash-talk other women in front of him. This just shows you are insecure about yourself and won’t make you look any better in his eyes.
Don’t fish for compliments. This is something that can drive a man crazy. If he’s just told you that you look beautiful, don’t ask him 5 minutes later, “Do I look nice tonight?”
Don’t try discussing baby names after date 3. Just don’t.
If it’s your first date, don’t order the most expensive item on the menu coupled with the priciest bottle of wine. But also don’t feel like you have to order a tiny green salad just to show him that you’re not a pig. Just eat what you normally would.
Remember girls, even if you follow these “rules” and things don’t work out, it’s not necessarily something you wrong. It might well be that he’s just not looking for a commitment.
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